Your Future is Bright.

 

The bible says, "For I know what I have planned for you,' says the LORD. 'I have plans to prosper you, not to harm you. I have plans to give you a future filled with hope." Jeremiah 29:11 

 

The destiny God has for you is beyond your wildest dreams. The bible says this in Ephesians 3:20, "Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us." Yes, you heard me right, that says far more abundantly beyond all we could ask or think.That is our God, always thinking the best about us and wanting us to have more than we can even ask or think.

 

That should make you jump up and down for joy knowing God is on your side and your destiny is bright! So spend time with God and His Word and watch you life take off on the best adventure ever!!!! Go for it!! He will give you everything your heart is yearning for and more!!!

 

For His Kingdom,

 

Pastor David Breed

 

 

 

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Family & Parenting

Families are important at West Coast Believers Church. Take time out of your busy day and spend quality time with your family. You will be so glad you did. Below you will find resources to inspire you, to strengthen you and help you build a healthy  family life.

 

Scripture

And these Words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:6-9

For You O Lord, will bless the righteous; With favor You will surround him as with a shield. Psalm 5:12

Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord. Psalm 34:11

You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. Psalm 139:16

Chasten your son while there is hope, and do not set your heart on his destruction. Proverbs 19:18

Train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverb 22:6

For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I Corinthians 13:4-7

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth”. And you, Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. Ephesians 6:1-4

 

Teaching

Raising Great Children - Jimmy Evans

How can children succeed in life if they don’t see you succeed? That’s a question every parent needs to ask—especially as it relates to their marriage. Raising great children is much more likely if you have also built a healthy marriage.

Here are three principles I believe can lead to success as you raise your kids:

First, your marriage should precede your children in priority. Have you ever heard a married person say, “Nothing is more important to me than my children?” I hear people say that pretty often, and I think these parents—though well-meaning—need to shift the order of their priorities. Your first priority is God. Period.Your second priority should be your marriage. Your children come third. Happiness and security in a marriage are essential for raising healthy, responsible children. When your child sees that you are happy and secure, it makes him or her happy and secure. Why? Because children see everything. They pick up tension in your relationship, even if you’re not fighting in front of them. They internalize that tension, which can damage their physical health and their psychological well-being. Get your marriage on track first.

Secondly, you have to be unified in parenting. Jesus said a house divided against itself can’t stand, which means you and your spouse must present a united front in raising your kids. You don’t have to agree on everything, but don’t disagree in front of the kids. Dad can’t say one thing while Mom says another. This means you must discipline in the same ways. You both need to show the same amount of affection and concern. And should you reach an impasse on decision-making or parenting styles, don’t hesitate to go outside your marriage to get help. Karen and I did that with a certain parenting issue—we encountered a problem we couldn’t solve on our own—and the outside help was absolutely critical to the success of our marriage.

Finally, understand that parenting requires faith. This means faithfulness to God and trusting His promises. Proverbs 22:6 tells parents, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” This is a powerful promise. God says that if we “train up” our children correctly, when they are mature they won’t depart from the way we have trained them. We have to trust Him that this will be true. We also have to know that training doesn’t mean talking. It means showing. We train our children by the way we live our lives. It’s the full process of transferring values, character, spirituality, and purpose. You can’t talk your way through this process. You have to live it. Our children learn to respond to certain situations, to deal with pressure, to love their spouses by watching us.

Prioritize your marriage. Present a united front. Train up your children by doing the right thing, and trust God that they will follow your example. You may encounter challenges along the way, but that’s how you raise successful kids.

 

 

Priorities in the Blended Family - Jimmy Evans

In more than thirty years of counseling with blended families, I’ve learned that not every family is successful at “blending”—especially when it comes to the priorities of the marriage and children.

An intact nuclear family starts with a marriage and then adds children to the mix. But in a blended family, the children are there at the beginning; they pre-date the marriage. This brings a much different dynamic to the table. In these situations, I believe kids need to be included in the dating and selection process of a mate. Without empowering the children beyond their capacity, blended family relationships simply work much better if the children feel as though they are part of the courtship experience. This is even more important when they have had a difficult time with the separation of their biological parents.

One of our employees at MarriageToday has a blended family. Before proposing, our employee’s new husband-to-be approached her teenage son and asked for his mother’s hand in marriage. It was a humbling experience for this man, but he was wise to do it. The son said, “Yes,” and from that point forward he was totally at peace with the relationship—because he had been given partial ownership of it. His role in the relationship had been respected.

After the wedding, it is crucial that the relationship between husband and wife in a blended marriage become a top priority – even a higher priority than the children. Why? Because strong families aren’t built around children – they are built upon strong marriages. In order for any marriage to be strong you have to prioritize it, work on it, continue to pursue each other, and meet each other’s needs. This is just as true in a blended marriage as in a first marriage.

Obviously, I’m not saying you should neglect your children. They are very important – but they are not as important as your marriage. If you neglect your marriage for the sake of your children, your marriage will suffer. And when your marriage suffers, so do your children.

In most cases, people in a blended family have experienced divorce. That means your children have already witnessed a failed marriage. As their role model, you need to show them a successful marriage—not another failed one. Think of it this way: raising kids is a temporary assignment in life. Your children will leave home one day. They will grow up and “graduate” from your care but your marriage should last for a lifetime. Spouses who neglect their marriage for their children are in for a lot of heartache. When the children grow up and leave home, those spouses only have a shell of a marriage remaining. Their children will not have had a successful marriage to emulate when they get married. Not only will your marriage suffer but marriages in the next generation will suffer.

Yes, your children are precious and important. Of course, they deserve your love and attention. But make sure you are balancing your care of them with care for your marriage. By giving your spouse the attention they deserve, you are teaching your children to respect them (their new parent) also. By working hard at your marriage, you model success for them and prepare them for the future. That’s a deeper, long-lasting kind of love.

Blended families are a challenge, but I have seen blended-family marriages thrive when the husband and wife keep marriage a priority and respect their children. Building something that extends far beyond the childrearing years gives your children a foundation to build upon for themselves. I hope these thoughts are encouraging to you. May you know the peace of Christ in your home, your marriage, and your family.

 

 

Books

Boundaries With Kids - Dr Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children. Here is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Doctors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to set limits and still be a loving parent, bring control to an out-of-control family life, apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting, define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids … and much more. 

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0310243157/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

 

Boundaries With Teens - Dr. John Townsend

Teenagers! You love them to pieces … but sometimes you feel like the pieces are falling apart. Relax! Your sanity will survive these rocky teenage years, and so will your teens—provided you set healthy boundaries that work to their benefit and yours. Boundaries with Teens shows you how. From best-selling author and counselor Dr. John Townsend, here is the expert insight and guidance you need to help your teens take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions and gain a deeper appreciation and respect both for you and for themselves. 

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0310270456/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

 

8 Things No Kid Should Leave Home Without - Joe McGee

In this fast-paced world, time with your kids at home is limited and, before you know it, the day will arrive for your kids to move out of the house. Will they be ready for what faces them? Quality time loving and getting to know your kids is paramount, but it is also extremely important to prepare them for living life on their own. Joe McGee, author, life trainer, and former school administrator, gives you eight powerful principles that go beyond vocation, ethnicity, religious background, or upbringing. These principles are simple things you can give your kids to help them achieve a higher standard of living - a godly standard that will bring success and fulfillment. 

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1577948270/ref=cm_sw_su_dp

 

 

Web Sites

 

Joe McGee

Author, Bible teacher and former school administrator, shares his laugh-and-learn approach to family relationships in his Faith for Families seminars across over 50 cities annually and weekday radio program, Fighting for Families. As a husband of 44 years and father of six children, Joe has invested the past 30 years in training people from all walks of life in family, marriage and parenting relationships. 

http://joemcgeeministries.com

 

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrotts

As #1 New York Times best-selling authors, their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages, and include best-selling and Gold-medallion winner Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Other popular titles include Real Relationships, L.O.V.E., The Parent You Want To Be, Trading Places, The Complete Guide To Marriage Mentoring and Love Talk.

http://www.lesandleslie.com

 

Jimmy and Karen Evans

Since 1994, MarriageToday has used every medium at its disposal to strengthen families and marriages through its diverse ministry outreaches. "God wants families to enjoy the emotional security and fulfillment that strong marriages bring. That’s why He has called our ministry to establish, strengthen, save, and restore family and marriage relationships through a Biblical message of healing, restoration, hope, and encouragement."

http://marriagetoday.com

 

Focus on the Family

Focus on the Family is a global Christian ministry dedicated to helping families thrive. We provide help and resources for couples to build healthy marriages that reflect God’s design, and for parents to raise their children according to morals and values grounded in biblical principles.

http://www.focusonthefamily.com

 

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